When I was younger we had this sizable wooden brown trunk full of dresses, heels, hats & pearls. Oh how we loved the pearls. Whether it was playing a game of Pretty Pretty Princess... you know it had that high quality synthetic cast jewelry! OR spending the afternoon with the magical trunk becoming a princess, a teacher or a pirate (Couldn't leave the brother out). That trunk full of what everyone else just viewed as aged, undesirable clothes were little girls treasures.
I feel many of us have lost this truth most days. As dressing up has turned into a chore instead of a fun way to express yourself.
So I challenge you to put on your goggles or Kate Spade glasses and try to view your closet a little differently today. Play with mixing different styles or contrasting a burnt orange top w/ a purple skirt because who says you shouldn't start each day with a dose of fun? Who says you can't love lace and leather OR stripes with a safari print? Style doesn't need to make sense it needs to express who you are.
So put on that skirt and do a twirl. Your five year old self with thank you.
Heart beating fast, the phone rings, finally with test results, they say I need to go to the ER, right now. Not giving me an option. Initially I get annoyed that yet again my health gets in the way of my plans for the evening and possibly the whole week. I mean it's usually in the way but I can ignore it. I have plans. Don't you know this body? Don't you know that I have barre tonight? Plans to go car shopping? Puppy class the next day and a much needed hair appointment? But I understand the importance and reluctantly pack up everything I may need for the unknown. While also full of excitement that they have finally figured out what has been ailing me for the past month!
All of the Doctors are convinced yet baffled by my test results. No surprise to me. This is nothing new. But FOUR Doctors, FOUR agree something needs to be done about my funny looking appendix. I wait longer and a little longer. They're talking atleast a stay in the hospital for a few days, possible surgery. But finally they change their mind after talking to a surgeon. He doesn't think it needs any attention at all, forget everything that everyone else says. A complete change of plans. So they send me home. A once hopeful girl's faith is crushed, demolished, that she'll ever get to feel better again. But she tries not to lose faith as faith is the key to getting answers someday and not accepting defeat.
See I often wish that I was a doctor that I could figure out my own symptoms, analyze test results, be able to research and find answers and make sure that others don't have to experience what I have for so may years at hospitals but as much as I consider it I know that it is not what I am called to do. While I'm beyond passionate about helping people I can't even watch them take my blood let alone look at a broken bone. As I was especially reminded while watching the Cavs last night. Instead, I am called to help you. Save you time, find that real smile, cultivate that confidence within. How can I do this? With what some may view as a mundane task. STYLING. But to me it's more than that. It's looking at the hundreds of details just like they do in the hospital, but my office just so happens to be in a closet instead of a sterile white hallway with awkward paintings. Helping prepare you for whatever curveball life may throw at you that day. Because the curveballs they will always come even when you feel it shouldn't be baseball season.
Taking one thing off your list to worry about. Confirming that you are gorgeous and letting that shine through. The way you look is just an addition to the glow and smile that we are really searching for. Easing the anxiety whether it is social, meeting your sig. others family, braving that interview, OR embracing your new body your little one gifted you. We put our bodies through so much, the least we could do is love them back the way they are. Because in the end- When we create beautiful things- like the perfect outfit- we inspire beautiful people- Valerie Mayen said this at the Yellow Cake Shop fashion show I attended and it stuck with me.
So while I will never be a medical surgeon I CAN be your fashion surgeon. Not just a doctor, no because they don't have the last say. I can be your expert. I can dissect your wardrobe and tell you the cure it needs. Be your final say. Eliminate frustration and save you time as well as money in the long run. That is my passion, helping YOU.
P.S Who designed hospital gowns? They could really use an update...
I know most of you would never think that outfits are based on science, math w/ a side of hearty art but they are. Embracing your shape is all about proportions and drawing attention to certain aspects to make an outfit balance but these are all only guidelines and not rules hence the mix of hard science and math w/ Art! Does Fashion have rules though? Nope. Fashion tends to take after the Pirates of the Caribbean mantra. The Fashion code is more like guidelines than actual rules!
If we're all honest with ourselves style is something you have to face everyday whether you enjoy it or not. It's a shame that this thing we have to do everyday is something that most of us have never had classes on to learn the foundations of! You can either spend time initially so you don't have to spend time later or spend time later in frustration and extra time being unsure of yourself every morning.
ITS NOT ABOUT CLOTHES IT'S ABOUT FINDING YOUR CONFIDENCE & JOY. It's about having your inside match your outside, it's about saving time & making those first impressions count. Whether you want to or not everyday you have to make first impressions because you will always see someone new.
A FEW FASHION GUIDELINES!
Here are a few tips to consider to make that arch nemesis piece your new fave!
1. Create a V-neck- Now this doesn't mean you always have to buy only v-necklines at all! Add a pendant necklace to create that v-shape or embrace the cold shoulder trend. To create an opposite V. There is a reason the trend has taken off! PRO TIP: Look for more of a L-shape cut out if you find cold shoulder tops to not be flattering on you. Scarves are also great for lending a helping hand. Or the next time you are out shopping look for a print that accents that v-shape!
2. Belt it- or find styles that draw attention to your waist. Thank the trend forecasting peeps this year for this actually being on trend! Makes it way more easier to find while out shopping!
3. Say hello to mom jeans- Ahem I mean high waisted fabulousness! Because thankfully the high waisted denim of today are nothing like the denim of the 80's! They have come a long way! Hello 4-way stretch spandex. Tucking in your favorite basic tee/tank with a cardigan over top will draw attention to your waist to give your outfit the look you know its been missing but couldn't put your finger on.
4. Layer with a structured jacket- Not just great for the men in your life! & Who ever thought cold weather could be your new best friend? A greatly made jacket will tailor in at the waist and flow out slightly to accentuate your shape. Even the casual cargo jackets of the season tend to have a string you can tighten to achieve this!
5. Balance Shape- Yeah we hear it all the time. But what does it actually mean? For example, it means that since it is sweater weather and those cozy sweaters tend to bulkier, balancing out your bottom half with a legging or skinny jean. Yes I promise you can pull them off. It means that embracing the midi skirt trend of the season that is oh so chic is balanced with a structured button down or lightweight tucked in sweater.
Disclaimer: Remember though these are just tips not hard fast rules. THERE ARE NO RULES IN FASHION. Thats what makes it so fun!
Empowered women empower women.
Thats what we here at Cut Chic believe.
This is something I have been looking a lot at lately, as well as trying to define what this looks like. I seem to continue to encounter women who believe the opposite. You know the type... the ones who will throw you under that sale rack at Nordstrom so they can get that last pair of Prada heels on sale without batting an eye? Ok. So maybe you've never seen them do that but you know they would if they had the chance figuratively speaking.
Those that just view you only as competition; not a human, a friend, acquaintance, co-worker, family member or whatever it may be. Somehow, someway you might get in their way to get ahead in this dog eat dog world. How dare you. While I personally believe God has a plan for everyone and puts people in your life to grow you or steer you in a better direction. Can we just talk about how un-needed this petty competition is?
Now a little friendly competition obviously never hurt anyone don't get me wrong. But can we keep it to Mario Kart and Barre class? (Um, you are so going down when we play Mario Kart FYI) But I'm talking about the rip you with my words, suppress your success, throw you under a bus type of competition.
This past Saturday as I volunteered and watched the leader of the event get chewed and spit out by a woman for no reason at all. She simply just ignored it as she understood that the woman was going through a lot in her life. She handled it with such class and seamless effort. Her brutal words did not merit a reply clearly, which is exactly how she responded. She listened intently but sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all. Such a beautiful representation to not let the people who feel the need to tear you apart, bring you down.
In case you're wondering we can all succeed together! Just because I succeed does not mean you can't. I promise there is room for all of us here, we all bring our own set of strengths to the table, whether the same position or not. Don't sell yourself so short. If anything other women should be supporting other women in all aspects of life.
So be a Dare Devil, don't be scared to go after you want and conquer the world but don't be a Devil Wears Prada to get there.
Go after that job, that dream, that outfit you never thought you could wear but why don't you bring a friend along for the journey rather than go at it by yourself. I promise it'll be more fun and less lonely at the top with all the other women there sparkling with you.
Mario Kart, Balloons & Bananas,